Every day we make choices. We choose to slow down for a yellow light or to speed up to try to make it through the intersection. We choose to be quite or speak up during conversations. We choose between paper or plastic (or even bring out own bag) at the grocery store. We choose what clothes we’re gonna wear today. We choose to make our kids rechoose the clothes they chose to wear that day. Everyday–choices. They’re made.
We have other choices too. We have the choice to enjoy the day or not to. We have a choice to be in a good mood or a bad one. We have the choice on how we respond to any given situation. We will we choose to respond in anger or will we choose to respond in love? Will we choose to offer grace to someone who is being mean to us or will we respond in kind? We have the choice of reframing our point of view.
We have the choice of finding joy in what we’re doing or grumbling and muttering about it.
When we choose to grumble and mutter, we then grumble and mutter and get frustrated at the people and situations we’re grumbling and muttering about. We get tired of the drama we find ourselves entering into and then proclaim “Not my circus, not my monkeys.” When we choose to find the bad in the day, we will find it. We’ll find it very easily and quickly. If we choose to have a bad day, we will. We will see it everywhere we go and get frustrated that it happens. We get mad when we feel unfulfilled in our jobs, in our families, in our marriages, in our friendships. We see the bad in all these things and get mad that we’re not happy.
Why is that?
Because we choose to.
We apply the same thing to our walk with Jesus. We apply the same thing to our churches. We choose to see things negatively about our church. We choose to see where we think Jesus let us down. We choose to see where we think the church let us down. And we see it. And when we see it we get upset. And when we get upset to see what we were looking for in the first place we walk away. We blame. We look for more bad things, more bad situations, more ways we’ve been let down.
Why is that?
Because we choose to.
The flip side is true. When we choose joy, we see joy. When we see the good, we find the good. When we choose to live each day in seeing the joy, we will find it. When we choose to see the good in our jobs, in our families, in our marriages, in our friendships, we will find it. When we choose to live in joy, we experience that joy.
The same is true in following Jesus. The same is true in being part of the church. When we choose to see where God is at work, when we choose to see how Jesus is working and moving, we will find it. When we choose to see what God is doing in the church, where we can meet Jesus in the church, where we can experience that joy in the church, we will find it.
But we must choose to.
It can be tough. It can be hard. We get wrapped up in the negativity of others, we get wrapped up in the negativity of ourselves. We focus on the negative of the circumstances, of what people have done to us, where people have failed us, where God has failed us, where Jesus has failed us, and we focus on that. We choose that. And when we choose to live that, we experience it.
Yet when we choose to seek the positive, we seek not to be part of the negative, we choose to see the joy and fun in the circus and the monkeys, we see life differently. We live life differently. We begin to see where we can enjoy life with others, enjoy life with family, friends, our marriages, our walk with Jesus. We see it. And when we see it, we experience it, we live it.
But we must choose it.
So, what type of day will you have today? How will you see today? Will you choose to see the bad or will you choose to live and see the good and the joy? It’s your choice how you’re day will go.